Saving Mary

Why Do Men Hurt Women Through Sex?

Posted on by Deidre Havrelock

RAPE, GANG RAPE…VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN…WHY?

Yes, yes…I know, that is a huge question and for many of us it will seem like a crazy question. (I mean, who’s going to answer it?) But with the trial of alleged abusers like  Ma’lik Richmond, 17, and  Trent Mays, 16,  taking place in Steubenville today (right now, as a matter of fact), and with the memory of the  23-year-old student who was brutally raped and fatally assaulted by a group of six men in New Delhi this past December still fresh in our memory (and I’m talking the rape became so horrifically brutal that most of the girl’s intestines were pulled out …. (LINK TO HUFFINGTONPOST ARTICLE HERE), and let’s not forget about Lara Logan (back in 2011) who was in Tahrir Square with her “60 Minutes” news team when Mubarak’s announcement came out and she was suddenly jumped by some Egyptian protesters who sexually assaulted her (LINK HERE), it would seem that we need to start asking questions not just to victims of assaults but to the men who are perpetrating the attacks. A reporter for AlJazeera, Aela Callan (for 101 East) did just that in her production entitled “It’s A Man’s World.”A NEW KIND OF STUDY:

For the first time, researchers have compiled cross-country data from men – those who admit to using violence against women, and those who do not. It is hoped that understanding men’s own experiences will help to target the causes of violence against women and prevent it from happening at all.

Four UN agencies interviewed 10,000 men across seven countries in the Asia-Pacific, with startling results.

One in four said they had raped a woman or girl, while one in 25 admitted to taking part in gang rape.

Men say they start raping early, often in their teenage years and are frequently motivated by sexual entitlement. While the rates of violence are shocking, the variations between countries is giving hope to those working on programmes to prevent violence and rape, because it demonstrates that early intervention can make a difference.

The research confirmed that there is no single cause of violence, but a complex interplay of factors related to individual experiences, community norms, and societal elements. (LINK TO PRODUCER’S BLOG HERE)

It’s a man’s world —  Content Warning! I think the one thing that stood out for me as shocking in this video and interview with the perpetrators of gang rape was that the men participated in gang rape as an attempt to bond with their friends. The idea seems to be that men want desperately to bond with each other, but women are still on the outside, wondering if we can every truly be loved as equals.

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